Saturday, October 24, 2026

LIVE, LEARN, & LOVE SERIES #114. The Immigrant (film, 2013)

Do you take delight in watching films, listening to pop music, or reading books? For English learners, movies, songs, and books are one of the most wonderful sources to explore the language! You can indulge in your favorite wisdom, and oftentimes good lessons while you’re at it.

 




#114. The Immigrant (film, 2013)

This James Gray’s film “The Immigrant” is not a true story, but it’s deeply rooted in his family history. The film was inspired by his Jewish grandparents’ journey from Russia to New York through Ellis Island in the 1920s. Set in 1921, the story follows an innocent Polish woman who is lured into burlesque and vaudeville. When a charismatic magician enters her life, he tries to rescue her and reunite her with her sister, who is detained at Ellis Island.

 

Orlando, the Magician said: [on stage] “So, what do you want here in America?”

Ewa said: “I want to be happy.”

ð    This scene reveals the painful contradiction at the heart of the American Dream. On stage, Orlando invokes the grand illusion of America—a land where people come hoping to find a better life. Ewa’s simple answer, “I want to be** happy,” cuts through the spectacle. She asks for neither wealth nor fame, only the chance to live with dignity, security, and hope. Yet Ewa, newly arrived from Poland, is separated from her sick sister at Ellis Island and trapped in a world of exploitation. The cruel heckler’s interruption exposes the distance between her innocent longing and the degrading reality she must endure.

 

(Ewa said to her aunt): “I have gone through so many trials. Has it become a sin for me to try so hard to survive? Aunt... Is it a sin to want to survive when I have done so many bad things?”

ð    This is a scene where Ewa asks her aunt the heartbreaking question that captures the profound moral anguish at the heart of her journey. A devout Catholic, Ewa finds herself trapped between her conscience and the desperate need to survive and save her sister. Exploited by a cruel world, she begins to question not only her choices but also her own worthiness of forgiveness. What makes her suffering so painful is that she is a victim of exploitation, yet she carries the burden of shame as if survival itself were a sin.

 

(Magician Orlando said to Ewa): “My mother used to always tell me, God's eye is on every sparrow. You've got a right to be happy, Ewa. At least, that's what I think.”

ð    This is the moment Ewa could find a divine light of hope in Orlando’s words even when she was tossed into the dark and unforgiving world. His gentle reminder that God watches over even the smallest sparrow offers her a moment of grace—a quiet assurance that she has not been forgotten. Orlando sees something in her that Bruno refuses to acknowledge: a woman whose worth extends far beyond the circumstances that have trapped her.

 

(Bruno said to Ewa): “If you could lick my heart, you'd taste nothing but poison. See, you think there's goodness in everybody, but there isn't. So you go and you forget about me, and you forget about this place. And you forget about those things that I made you do! Because I took everything from you and I gave you nothing! Nothing. 'Cause I'm nothing.”

(Ewa said to Bruno): “You are not nothing.”

ð    This is one of the most touching scenes in this film where we see how a damaged or broken human relationship could be mended. Between Bruno, a man consumed by his own moral corruption, and Ewa, a woman struggling to reclaim her dignity, unfolds a final confrontation between despair and grace. When Bruno describes his heart as poisoned and declares himself “nothing,” his words reveal more than remorse. Having manipulated Ewa, exploited her vulnerability, and committed an act of violence driven by jealousy, he sees himself as beyond redemption. His confession becomes a devastating acknowledgment of the harm he has inflicted—and perhaps an attempt to sever the last emotional bond connecting him to Ewa. In his eyes, the world has extinguished any possibility of goodness, leaving only the wreckage of his own making. Yet Ewa’s response, “You are not nothing,” interrupts this descent into self-condemnation. 

    Having endured humiliation and suffering at Bruno’s hands, she has every reason to turn away from him in anger. Instead, she recognizes a humanity he can no longer see in himself. Her words neither erase his wrongdoing nor absolve him of responsibility. Rather, they resist the idea that a person must be reduced entirely to the worst things he has done.


 



** Jean’s Small Thoughts:

The word immigrant has always held a deeply personal meaning for me. My relatives are immigrants. I am an immigrant. My child is part of this immigrant story, and one day, his own children will carry it into the next generation. But what does it truly mean to live as an immigrant in this land? Is it simply a matter of crossing borders, seeking opportunity, and building a new life? Or does it carry a deeper meaning when we consider the history of the land itself?

As we all know, long before European settlers arrived, this continent was home to Indigenous peoples whose histories, cultures, and ancestral connections to the land stretched back countless generations. Through colonization, forced displacement, and policies that denied their sovereignty and humanity, many Indigenous communities lost their lands, while their existence and voices were too often pushed to the margins of the very nation that emerged upon them. This history invites us to reflect on a profound contradiction: What does it mean to seek a place to belong on a land where the meaning of belonging has itself been shaped by conquest, displacement, and unequal power?

For immigrants, the American Dream often begins with hope—the promise of freedom, opportunity, and a better future for the next generation. Yet belonging is more complicated than obtaining legal status, learning a new language, or achieving material success. It also means negotiating identity, memory, and the quiet longing to be accepted without having to erase the place and culture from which we came.

Perhaps being an immigrant is not merely about leaving one homeland to find another. It is about learning to live between histories, carrying the memories of one place while becoming part of another, and asking what kind of future we are helping to shape.

As I think about my own family across generations, I find myself returning to one essential question: Can we build a genuine sense of belonging without acknowledging the histories of those who were here before us? Perhaps the answer begins with humility—with the willingness to recognize the lives and losses behind the land we call home, to honor the dignity of those whose stories have been silenced, and to understand that the promise of a better future should never depend on denying someone else’s humanity. After all, the immigrant story is not only a story of arrival. It is also a story of memory, responsibility, and the enduring human search for a place where we can live with dignity and call ourselves home.

In this film, Magician Orlando creates illusions for a living, while America itself becomes an illusion for those who arrive seeking salvation. Behind the promise of freedom and opportunity lies a world that can exploit the very people who believe in that promise. Perhaps the tragedy of the American Dream is not that people dream of happiness, but that their most basic hopes for a decent life can become nothing more or less than commodities in someone else’s hands.

As immigrants arrive at Ellis Island in the 1920s, they are treated as numbers rather than individuals, their histories and hopes overshadowed by an indifferent system. Against this dehumanizing reality, Ewa’s words become a quiet act of defiance. Although she is vulnerable, separated from her sister, and forced into degrading circumstances, she refuses to let others define her worth. Her declaration becomes an emotional anchor throughout her struggle to survive without losing her sense of self. That is to say, a country may deny us opportunity, a system may diminish our humanity, and circumstances may rob us of freedom—but none of these should define our intrinsic worth. Today, we are still witnessing in dismay that a lot of legal US citizens getting maltreated or gunned down by ICE for no reason we could ever understand.

Even when the world turns its back on us, a single moment of human kindness can remind us that we are still worthy of love, mercy, and redemption.

To me, the final conversation between Bruno and Ewa seemed to be the spiritual heart of the film. Against the bleak backdrop of an immigrant world where desperation breeds exploitation and suffering often goes unanswered, Ewa’s compassion becomes an extraordinary act of moral courage. She refuses to let cruelty have the final word, even when the person before her has been one of its instruments.

Perhaps the film is leaving us this profound question: “whether grace can survive where innocence has been shattered and trust destroyed” In Ewa’s quiet declaration, we glimpse the possibility that forgiveness begins not by denying the darkness within another person, but by refusing to believe that darkness is all there is. I was so happy that the film ends NOT with a simple promise of redemption, but with a fragile, deeply human recognition that ‘even in the ruins of our moral lives, the possibility of dignity remains.’

Thursday, October 22, 2026

LIVE, LEARN, & LOVE SERIES #113. Therapy Done Right (film, 2026)

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The film follows Ulysis Veron, a psychoanalyst who dares to step beyond the boundaries of therapy to save his patients from their darkest moments. By doing what they fear most, he hopes to prevent tragedy. But as he becomes increasingly entangled in their lives, one intervention after another sets off a chain reaction of unexpected consequences.

 

“I don’t know…should I have reached out? Was there more I could have done?”

ð     This is the first scene of the movie where Ulises Verón is rejecting an award presented to him, delivering a speech that shows his doubt in his capability as a professional psychoanalyst. Haunted by the death of a patient, he begins to question whether listening and offering advice are sufficient to save those who are suffering. His guilt drives him to step beyond the boundaries of traditional therapy and intervene directly in his patients’ lives.

 

“Eugenio, you’re 62 years old. You still have time. You have plenty of life left. When will you stop lying to yourself everybody else, out here dating girls, who could be your daughters? Huh? You also believe that you’re the smartest man in the world because you’re leading a double life when in reality you can barely handle one. You built a cage all around you, and now you’ve trapped yourself…..Eugenio, the keys to the cage are in your hands. Let yourself out. Only you can do that.”

ð    This scene shows powerful confrontation challenges Eugenio to face aging, emotional avoidance, and self-deception. Rather than accepting his double life as a sign of cleverness, he is forced to recognize how his own choices have trapped him in a cycle of lies and isolation. Ulysis is letting Eugenio realize that he has built his own prisons through fear and denial, but the key to freedom lies in his willingness to face the truth and change.

 


(Ulysis is on a TV counseling show and saying to a caller who asks how to parent a wanton kid): “Why is it that right now at 3:00 P.M. you’re sitting there on your ass, messaging a television show about your parenting problems, pretending that we can fix your parenting life? That’s not how it works. You have to get involved. You have to be willing to get your hands a bit dirty.”

ð     In this scene of a TV Counseling show, Ulises’ blunt confrontation satirizes a culture that seeks convenient, quick-fix solutions to deeply rooted problems. By calling out a parent for turning to a television show instead of actively addressing their child’s struggles, he emphasizes that real change requires presence, effort, and a willingness to get your hands dirty. The scene challenges our tendency to outsource responsibility and mistake distant advice for meaningful action.

 


“This book is the result of well-kept secrets. – M. Bouchard”  

ð     Published under Bouchard’s name, the book carries the dedication, “This book is the result of well-kept secrets.” The statement becomes a darkly comic punchline, concealing a web of betrayal beneath the appearance of literary success. The novel itself is born from a carefully concealed deception. The celebrated author Bouchard is not its true creator, while his therapist Ulysis has secretly orchestrated the entire enterprise. On the surface, both men seemed to appear to achieve their ambitions—Bouchard regains his literary prestige, while Ulises seemingly validates his radical methods. Yet their apparent triumph comes at the expense of honesty, professional integrity, and personal accountability.

 

** Jean’s Small Thoughts:

This film brings back memories of my own experience as an English educator in Korea. One of my teaching philosophies was to help struggling students speak correctly from the very beginning, before their verbal errors became fossilized. I paid close attention to every mistake they made and corrected them on the spot. To make matters worse, I often lacked the patience to give them enough time to think and formulate complete sentences before responding to my questions or joining a conversation.

Looking back, I realize that my well-intentioned approach did not necessarily lead to the progress I had hoped for. Instead, my constant corrections may have raised my students’ affective filters, making them more anxious and less confident about speaking English. Sometimes, in our eagerness to help others improve, we unintentionally create the very barriers that hold them back.

In this film, psychotherapist and psychoanalyst Ulises Verón decides to take a radical new approach to his work. Yet, as his interventions become increasingly intrusive, his good intentions set off a cascade of unexpected consequences. As I watched the film, one compelling question stayed with me: Where does genuine compassion end and the dangerous illusion of controlling another person’s life begin? Ulises’s question to the audience during the award ceremony continued to echo in my mind long after the film ended: “How the hell are we going to fix this?”

Bouchard, a stuck-up and celebrated novelist struggling with alcoholism and severe writer’s block, turns to Ulises Verón, a disillusioned psychoanalyst who has abandoned conventional therapy in favor of intrusive and ethically questionable interventions in his patients’ lives. The final irony lies in the relationship between therapy and art themselves. Both seek to uncover the hidden dimensions of human experience, but when personal vulnerability becomes a tool for manipulation, insight can turn into exploitation. The film leaves us with a lot of unsettling question: Can a seemingly perfect result ever justify the ethical compromises and human betrayals that made it possible? Where does the desire to help another person end and the impulse to control that person begins? The film challenges the most popular belief or assumption that a successful outcome justifies the means used to achieve it.



Tuesday, October 20, 2026

LIVE, LEARN, & LOVE SERIES #112. Show Way (authored by Jacqueline Woodson & illustrated by Hudson Talbott, 2005)

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#112. Show Way (authored by Jacqueline Woodson & illustrated by Hudson Talbott, 2005)

Jacqueline Woodson’s Show Way tells a moving, multigenerational story of African American women who preserved their family history and passed down wisdom through quilting and literacy. Beginning with Soonie’s great-grandmother, who was sold into slavery at just seven, the story traces a journey from enslavement to freedom, through segregation and civil rights marches. The quilts, stitched with colorful patches and hidden meanings, become symbols of hope, survival, and the path to freedom. Brought to life by Hudson Talbott’s luminous illustrations, this lyrical story celebrates generations of courageous women whose strength, knowledge, and love continue to illuminate the way for their daughters and future generations.

 


“At night, she sewed stars and moons and roads – tiny patch pieces of stars and moon and roads. Slaves whispered what no one was allowed to say: That Mathis know how to make……a Show Way. Came to her when they needed to talk; came to her for the stories of brave people; came to her for the patch pieces; just before they disappear into the night.”

ð     These lines offer a powerful glimpse into the courage and ingenuity of enslaved African Americans seeking freedom. Through Mathis’s quilting, stars, moons, and roads become symbols of hope, while whispered stories preserve knowledge that could not be shared openly. They came to her for golden advice and inspiration on what they literally could do on the road to freedom. Mathis is more than a quiltmaker; she is a keeper of stories, a guardian of collective memory, and a source of strength for those preparing to escape. Her quilts represent the possibility of freedom and the power of knowledge passed from one generation to the next.

 


“Mathis May stayed on, grew tall and straight-boned, jumped broom with another slave. That slave was killed running off to the north side of the war months before he got to meet his baby, a girl-child who was born free that same year, 1863. History went and lost her name.”

ð     These poignant lines reveal the painful realities of slavery, the courage to seek freedom, and the heartbreaking gaps in historical memory. Mathis May survives into adulthood, builds a family through love and commitment, and carries on the quilting tradition despite the oppression surrounding her.

Her husband’s tragic death while attempting to escape to the North reflects the enormous risks enslaved people took in pursuit of liberty. Their daughter, born in 1863, represents a turning point in the family’s history—a new generation with the promise of freedom, though her father never lived to see her. The line “History went and lost her name” is especially moving. It reminds us that countless lives, particularly those of enslaved African Americans, were overlooked or erased from official records.

 


“Sewed those quilts to live. Sewed those quilts to remember. And though some could book read, most could not. Stars and moon and roads. Picture reading was what they’d always known.”

ð     Although many enslaved people were denied access to education and literacy, they continued to learn through observation, oral storytelling, and visual symbols. The imagery of stars, moons, and roads in the story celebrates their resourcefulness and the power of knowledge passed down through generations. This part of the story honors strong resilience, creativity, and determination of people who held onto hope even when the written word was beyond their reach.

 


** Jean’s Small Thoughts:

This is one of the treasured books from my son’s childhood bookshelf. Once he learned to read and write in both his mother tongue, Korean, and his second language, English, searching for good books became our happiest after-school routine. We would find a quiet, cozy nook in our local public library and curl up together with a stack of books of our choice, ready to explore new worlds. Whenever we fell in love with a particular book, we would visit a bookstore to bring it home as our own.

“Show Way” was one of those special treasures. With its luminous illustrations and deeply moving story, it captivated both my son and me so completely that we could hardly take our eyes off its pages. Even now, it remains a beautiful reminder of the precious moments we shared through the magic of reading.

Although the tradition of quilts serving as coded maps on the Underground Railroad remains historically debated, the author Woodson’s story beautifully captures the importance of oral tradition, creativity, and community in the struggle for freedom. We are reminded of the fact that even in the darkest times, courage and knowledge can light the way toward a better future.

Through family stories, quilting, and the passing down of knowledge, Woodson restores a sense of identity to the history has forgotten, honoring their resilience and preserving their legacy for generations to come. Quilting becomes a powerful symbol of survival, remembrance, and hope. For generations of enslaved African Americans, quilts provided warmth while preserving family memories and cultural heritage in a world that often denied them their identity and freedom.

My husband and I made a small donation in the mid-2000s to support the construction of the Martin Luther King Jr. Memorial. To me, it stands as a powerful tribute not only to the prominent leaders of the African American civil rights movement but also to the countless unsung heroes who sacrificed their lives in the pursuit of freedom and equality throughout American history.

Just as we remember the courageous Korean independence fighters who resisted Japanese colonial rule, we must continue to honor the countless ordinary people whose extraordinary courage and selfless sacrifices helped shape our history. Their names may not all appear in history books, but their stories deserve to be told and remembered by generations to come.



Monday, October 19, 2026

It's time to play the latest SUNDAY PUZZLE from NPR! Find the weather words/phrases using the anagrams!



Every answer today is a word or phrase that might appear in a weather forecast. It might be a forecast from any time of the year in any part of the U.S. Identify the words from their anagrams.

 

Ex. IRAN —> RAIN

 

1. CLOD

2. STEEL

3. OF OLD

4. LE CAR

5. ONLINE (2 words)

6. NOT WIPED (2 words)

7. MORTICES (2 words)

8. RAUNCHIER

 



Answer Keys

    1.  COLD

    2.  SLEET

    3.  FLOOD

    4.  CLEAR

    5.  El Niño

    6.  DEW POINT

    7.  ICE STORM

    8.  HURRICANE

Saturday, October 17, 2026

LIVE, LEARN, & LOVE SERIES # 111. Street Food: Asia (documentary, 2019)

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#111. Street Food: Asia (documentary, 2019)

This documentary explores Asia’s vibrant street food culture and the inspiring stories of small vendors who turned their passion into successful businesses. Their personal journeys make each dish unique and special, attracting both locals and visitors from around the world.

 

Osaka, Japan

(food critic): “Who cares about appearances? Let’s be true to ourselves. Osaka is known as Japan’s kitchen. Osakans are known for spending more money on food than other Japanese. Osakans have lived this way for 400 years. ”

ð     The documentary begins with the city’s unique culture and culinary history. Unlike Japan’s more formal traditions, Osaka is known for its lively, outspoken, and down-to-earth people. Here, delicious food and a friendly atmosphere matter more than fancy dishes or elegant dining rooms. The well-known local Chef Toyo’s energetic street-side cooking is a perfect example.

During the Edo period (1603–1867), Osaka became Japan’s major trading hub, earning the nickname “the nation’s kitchen.” Its rich access to ingredients helped establish the city as one of Japan’s greatest food capitals. There is a famous old saying that Kyoto people spend their fortunes on fine clothes, while Osakans spend theirs on delicious food. Historically, wealthy merchants in Osaka expressed their prosperity through memorable meals rather than extravagant displays of wealth. Ultimately, Osaka’s street food culture is more than a modern trend. It reflects a 400-year-old tradition of celebrating good food, genuine connections, and the joy of living over superficial status symbols.

 




(local cook Toyo said): “When I was six, my mother died. I still remember it clearly. Then my family fell apart. My father started drinking and became very violent. He just drowned himself in alcohol. Starting at six years old, I was his target. My father hit me every day. He cut my school meal because he got no money. I pick weeds from the field to make a stir-fry. I can’t say my meals tasted good.”

ð     Chef Toyo’s story reveals the painful roots of his childhood and how early trauma and extreme poverty shaped his relationship with food and survival. After losing his mother at just six years old, he endured abuse and neglect from his alcoholic father. When his family could no longer afford his school meals, he was forced to gather weeds from the ground to survive. When Toyo recalls that those makeshift meals did not taste good, his words reflect the bitterness of childhood hunger and hardship. Yet, decades later, he transformed his painful past into a life devoted to cooking and sharing delicious food with others at Izakaya Toyo in Osaka.

 

“I set a goal to start my Izakaya once I saved 11,000,000 yen. I wanted to be the boss of a small food truck. Don’t be a bull’s tail, be a chicken’s head. I just put a stainless board on top of the truck bed. At first society looked down on me. I felt inferior. I worked nonstop for 50 days with four hours of sleep each night. Word of mouth made Izakaya Toyo famous. And on the third year, 100 people lined up.”

ð     Chef Toyo was a kind of person who never gives in. His philosophy in life boils down to independence, resilience, and self-worth over social status. He believes that it is better to lead your own small business than to remain an insignificant part of a powerful organization. For Toyo, running his own humble food stand meant choosing freedom and independence over prestige. In a society where secure corporate jobs traditionally earned respect, running a street food stand could seem like a less prestigious path. Toyo openly admits that other people’s judgments once made him feel inferior. However, he was strongly determined to succeed and overcome his insecurity through hard work. Rather than relying on expensive advertising, Toyo built his reputation through delicious food, tireless effort, and his unforgettable personality with a great sense of humor.

 

“In Osaka, eat till you drop (i.e., “Kuidaore” in Japanese). Toyo is Osaka.”

ð     Osaka’s food culture is summed up in the word kuidaore, meaning to eat until you drop or spend yourself into bankruptcy on food. From tako-yaki (octopus balls) to okonomiyaki (savory pancakes), eating is more than satisfying hunger—it’s a joyful way of life and a big part of the city’s identity.

Chef Yamamoto Toyo embodies the spirit of Osaka. His fiery cooking performances, tireless work ethic, resilience, and genuine warmth turn every meal into a lively show. That is to say, his unpretentious personality, passion for food, and love of people reflect the very heart and soul of this vibrant city.

 

(Toyo said): “I don’t fit in any box. My greatest wish is to keel over while working.”

ð     Chef Toyo’s words reflect his philosophy of life as a totally independent person who is strongly resilient and wholeheartedly devoted to his craft. He refuses to conform to society’s expectations or fixed ‘traditional ideas of success’. Through his open-air izakaya, unconventional cooking style, and fiery personality, he has created his own way of living and working. Rather than fitting into an established mold, he proudly follows his own path.

For Toyo, cooking is far more than a job—it is his passion, identity, and source of purpose. His words express a desire to spend his life doing what he loves: preparing food, serving people, and bringing joy to others.

 



** Jean’s Small Thoughts:

I can’t talk about childhood street food without mentioning beon-de-gi, the rather unusual-looking silkworm pupae snack in Korea. When I was little, the aroma of steaming beon-de-gi would drift through the alleys of our neighborhood. Although my mother was strict about buying snacks from street vendors, my sister and I could never resist sneaking out whenever that tempting smell reached us! We couldn’t stop giggling as we carried our snack wrapped in rolled-up newspaper. Even today, each time I spot canned beon-de-gi at Korean markets here in the States, I happily toss a can or two into my shopping cart. After all, who could resist a favorite childhood snack that brings back such sweet and fun memories?

I always enjoy watching documentaries that explore the unique foods and cultures of different countries. Of all the stories featured in the documentary Street Food: Asia, I found Chef Toyo’s story from Osaka, Japan, especially touching.

Chef Toyo’s journey of life seems like a powerful reminder of human resilience—the ability to rise above suffering and turn hardship into something meaningful. Through his food, laughter, and lively personality, Toyo seems to offer others the warmth and joy that were missing from his own childhood. Furthermore, Chef Toyo lets us learn that one’s success isn't defined by social status or prestigious titles. Sometimes, the greatest achievement is having the courage to stand on your own feet and build something meaningful on your own terms. If the achievement arrives at the end of sufferings, it must feel more valuable than any other accomplishments in the world.

Ultimately, Chef Toyo’s philosophy reminds us that a meaningful life doesn't have to follow society’s rules. True fulfillment may come from embracing our ipseity, dedicating ourselves to what we love, and finding purpose in the work we do every day. Take yourself just the way you are and listen to what your heart prompts you to do today and tomorrow. 


Haiku (3 lines of Poem with 5-7-5 syllables in each line) about street food in your memory

by Jean J. Lee

 

Munching on a treat,

Sweet memories drift back home,

Wishing to be there!






Wednesday, October 14, 2026

Let's Fall in Love!

Are you a “loveholic” type of person? Perhaps love is one of the greatest purposes of human life. As well aware, Greek philosophers explored the meaning of love and classified its many forms. Let’s explore some Greek words—and one Latin word—that express different kinds of love.





How about filling in the following blanks with the right kind of love?

 

1.  E_________ refers to passionate, romantic love between people who are physically attracted to each other. In Greek mythology, was it was the god of love, better known by his Roman name, Cupid, who used magical arrows to make people fall in love.

 

2.  P___________a is the affectionate love shared between close friends. Plato considered it even greater than eros, believing that the strongest romantic relationships could grow from deep friendship. This idea also inspired the concept of platonic love—a meaningful bond that doesn’t depend on physical attraction.

 

3.  __________pe is unconditional, selfless love that expects nothing in return. It inspires people to put others before themselves, even making great sacrifices for strangers or humanity as a whole. It is the kind of love that moves ordinary people to perform extraordinary acts of kindness and courage. This is a major term in the Christian Bible, which is why it is often defined as “Christian love.”

 

4.  St_________ is familial love that is the natural, affectionate love shared among family members. It includes the bond between parents and children, siblings, grandparents and grandchildren, and other relatives. This love often grows quietly through shared experiences, care, and a lifelong sense of belonging.

 

5.  M_______a refers to obsessive or possessive love that can turn unhealthy. It may involve extreme jealousy, an inability to accept rejection, or an overwhelming fixation on another person. Unlike healthy love, mania can lead to controlling behaviors and emotional distress.

 

6.  ______dus comes from Latin and means “play” or “game.” It refers to playful, casual love that involves flirting, seduction, and romantic fun without necessarily seeking a serious commitment. Over time, this kind of love may develop into eros, growing from playful attraction into passionate romantic love.

 

7.  P_________a is practical, long-term love in which stability, duty, or mutual benefit may take priority over romance and passion. It can be seen in arranged or politically motivated marriages, where couples stay together for financial security, family obligations, or shared interests—even when affection or fidelity is lacking.

 

8.  Ph____________a means self-love—how we see ourselves and feel about our bodies and minds. In a healthy form, it builds self-esteem, confidence, and a positive self-image. But when taken too far, it can turn into arrogance or narcissism. Even self-love, it seems, has two sides! In case we see this kind of love in a leader of a country, that is the worst nightmare.

 


 

Answer Keys

    1.  Eros

    2.  Philia

    3.  Agape

    4.  Storge

    5.  Mania

    6.  Ludus

    7.  Pragma

    8.  Philautia

LIVE, LEARN, & LOVE SERIES #114. The Immigrant (film, 2013)

Do you take delight in watching films, listening to pop music, or reading books? For English learners, movies, songs, and books are one of t...