Saturday, June 16, 2018

Dr. Jedidiah's Diary: Episode #3


Dr. Jedidiah’s Diary
Dr. Jedidiah is a psychiatrist who loves traveling, meeting new people, and exploring different cultures. As a single father who lost his wife to drug overdose 10 years ago, he has not been his old perky self for the last decade. During those hard years, he has met hundreds of, thousands of people from various walks of life around all over the world. Meeting new people and listening to their stories outside his office have given him different feelings from the ones through the formal encounter groups or support groups for therapy. These people he has accidentally come across were the paths through which Dr. Jedidiah could look back on his own life, being truly honest with himself. Here is Dr. Jedidiah’s monologue that has left him with some food for thoughts in life….or some fodder to justify his own mistakes in the past.

Episode #3

I thought it was such an interesting or somewhat bizarre view in the well-known, flashy shopping district in Gangnam area –which has become a famous place thanks to the Korean pop singer Psy -  in Seoul, Korea. It would be no exaggeration to say that every block in the area has a couple of plastic surgery clinics. What’s more surprising to me was I saw a lot of twin-like ladies with same big catty eyes, high nose, pouted lips, sharp and pointed jawline, and big breasts walking down the street there. ‘Hmmm…. these doppelgangers must have gotten nips-n-tucks from the same plastic surgeon!’ I said to myself and laughed inside. Then I found myself imagining those women’s original faces. Their ‘Before Pictures’ must not be Fixer Uppers at all. Unless most of them happened to be in fatal accidents in their lives, these similar looks must have been created out of their cosmetic purposes, not as a reconstructive surgery. But are they really satisfied with their new faces similar as other ladies looking as if they were manufactured in the same factory line?!!

This unrealistic phenomenon that I observed in Korea reminded me of my good old friend who recently decided to end his marriage with his wife Rita that had a series of cosmetic surgeries over the past ten years. I was invited to his wedding as a best man twenty years ago and still remember how beautiful and graceful the bride was back then. Since my friend had been terribly busy and completely occupied with his own business, his wife became bored and even reached the point of feeling depressed. She started to get interested in changing and revamping her look to ease her loneliness. Given that her husband makes a lot of money out of his business, Rita did not have to worry about spending astronomical amount of money and time on redesigning her face. However, times and times of restructuring and recreating her face didn’t seem to fulfill her insatiable desire for better appearance. Sadly and quite predictably enough, her husband could not stand his wife’s saponaceous expenditure anymore. That’s how my friend and his wife Rita ended up going their separate ways.

As a psychiatrist, I felt so bad for Rita. If I’d had a chance to talk with her about her inner problems, I could have saved her from spiraling into the vicious circle of loneliness, multiple plastic surgeries, and depression caused by her destroyed look. Quite a few people try to find a solution to their inner turmoil from the outside world. The paths to ease pain or disturbance in their heart should be found in facing the source of their problems. Although it may seem as if they looked like a quick fix, the outward change of appearance would not eventually act as a scab formed over their concerns or sore wounds. They will be, at best, just a band-aid solution.
I would like to ask people out there (considering to resort to plastic surgery for the purpose of living a better life) if they will certainly gain confidence in life as much as they expect through change of looks.

Expressions
1.   doppelganger: an apparition or double of a living person

2.   nip-n-tuck: a cosmetic surgical operation

3.   Fixer Upper: Something that is dire need of repair, but is more of a hobby to fix rather then a job

4.   reconstructive surgery: surgery to restore function or normal appearance by remaking defective organs or parts

5.   best man: a male friend or relative chosen by a bridegroom to assist him at his wedding

6.   insatiable: impossible to satisfy

7.   saponaceous: resembling or having the qualities of soap

8.   to go one’s separate ways: to end one’s relationship/ to divorce

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